Hey kid…is that porn in your jeans?
Do parents with a pornography addiction end up raising children with a mis-understanding of a healthy marriage and sex life? Yes.
12-year-old Johnny was the son of a secretary and porn addict. His mom, who frequently pulled long hours at work, was rarely home before it was almost bedtime for Johnny. Johnny's father was a work-from-home consultant and was home during most times in the day, though Johnny never saw him. Johnny's father spent many hours in his den office with the lights off, watching pornography, and rarely speaking to his son during the day. The 12 year old knew what his father was up to. As most curious boys do, Johnny had snooped through his father's office computer one day and found an assortment of various downloaded pornography movies. Johnny noticed his father rarely interacting with his mother and wondered why his dad no longer acted towards his mother the way that he had remembered when he was younger.
This story of Johnny could be told by many 12 year old boys across the country who have fathers that are pornography addicts. During a critical time in a boy's life, the start of development into manhood, they start to build the basis for their sexual lives. Youngsters develop many habits from their parents, and having a parent addicted to pornography and seeing porn in the possession of their parents isn't the best way to be shaping a child's mind. Also, addiction to pornography destroys marriages. A child could have a very wrong view of the way a healthy marriage works if they grow up around a porn addict.
Parents – get your addictions under control. Your children look up to you for guidance and a pornography crazed father isn't going to help them much. If you're addicted to pornography, get help. You don't need to live your pleasures out at your child's expense.
June 13, 2006 at 6:38 pm
thank you for your work
June 21, 2006 at 1:36 pm
What you are saying is very true. Pornography causes so much damage with in society and families, more importantly. I help people that have pornography addiction, and I have seen and heard a lot of sad stories about the damage it has caused. The story you told here is a sad story, but it does happen. My site if you are interested is http://www.personalandlifecoach.com/
September 17, 2006 at 2:13 pm
What about the mothers who are unaware of the father’s activities? Or the father who is too ashamed to express to his wife that his is an addict? (or refuses to believe he’s an addict?) Other than those, I agree that addiction, in any form, is a terribly thing to have in a familial environment w/ impressionable youngsters…
Another question: does this form of addiction beget future addicts in a way that is similar to the cyclical nature of abuse? e.g.: my father did this, and this is what I grew up with (and associate as “normal”..) then it’s OK to do this…
March 19, 2007 at 5:32 am
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