Sweetie, can you do me like that porn star?

On the “Porn Myths” website, there is a quote that says: “Pornography enhances relationships.” Plain and simple – I agree. You may be asking yourself how something so addictive and so personal could actually help a relationship. I asked myself the same question and then came to this conclusion – it can.

I know the blood pressure of people who think pornography is the devil is starting to rise right now, but relax, sit back, and keep reading.

Think about a few different relationship situations: (a) The older, experienced woman falls for the younger, inexperienced man. (b) The newlyweds who have abstained from sex until marriage (and its their wedding night!). (c) The middle-aged couple that is starting to get bored with the same old sex they’ve been having for the past 15 years. In ALL of these situations, the relationships could be enhanced using pornography. When I say “benefit from pornography” I’m not talking about the kind of pornography viewing situation that everyone typically thinks of, the man alone is his bedroom by his computer, in the dark. That is not at all the type of viewing situation that benefits relationships.

The type of viewing situation that enhance relationships would be both partners viewing the material together, becoming mutually aroused, and able to comment to each other on specific scenes that are interesting to them. How would this benefit you ask?

Take relationship situation A for example. If the couple watches pornography together it will break the ice about topics that the inexperienced man may not know about. He can learn about his partner and what she enjoys, and she can suggest things to him by pointing out what his happening in the pornography without offending her partner. A similar viewing situation would enhance the relationship of situation C.

Situation B is different. The couple could actually learn almost everything about sex together. The porn would act as an instructional tool and also, like situation A and C, the porn could teach the two about each other – things they may not have known because of abstinence.

There you have it. Porn can enhance relationships when used as a tool for open communication.

Stats. Read them and weep.

My last post in response to a blog about child pornography got me thinking about the topic. Not just thinking – worrying. What type of world will my children grow up in? If the problem of child pornography is growing within the United States that means that I will have more of a fear of my children being sexually harmed than my parents had for me.

 

There are some surprisingly sick statistics that are available on the internet that I would like to share with you; I’ll comment on them but I would love for you to form your own opinions on the problem of child pornography and share them with me.

 

The National Center for Missing and Exploited Children estimates that nearly 20% of all internet pornography involves children.

 

A National Children’s Homes report shows the growth of pornographic images of children rising 1500% since 1988.

 

A National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children study shows 20,000 new child porn images posted online weekly.

 

All of these statistics are staggering, and meaningful only to people who take the opportunity to stop and think about them. Though pornography is a huge problem in the United States, child pornography is seldom discussed – and it affects everyone. The root of the problem is the sexual fiend whose mind has become distorted into pedophilia, and never looks back. As I said last time, the root of the problem needs to be cracked down on. Pedophilia needs to be researched and cut out. It will take years of work by law enforcement, psychologists, parents, and others, but the work will be worth it. We need to stop the sickness – every child is at risk.

 

 

Gus, we found your porn. Get out of the girl’s locker room.

It’s true. There has been a huge increase in the amount of children being sexually molested. According to recent statistics by the FBI, one out of every four women and one out of ten men in the US were sexually molested before the age of 18. I’m not convinced as to what effect pornography has had on child molesters; it seems that it is a case-by-case scenario. One thing is for certain, child pornography and child molestation have become major problems in the United States.

The writer of this blog is right when they say that the sexual molesters fuel the child porn industry. There’s no doubt that without the demand, the supply wouldn’t be there. The demand is currently there. The very root of the problem is pedophilia, the psychological disorder that distorts perception of passion, thus making a child appealing to an adult. These pedophiles take place in the production and consumption of child pornography. Pedophiles can be anyone.

The janitor in the high school that I attended was a pervert. I knew it. Everyone knew it. Nobody ever complained because Gus hadn’t given them a reason to complain. He cleaned, he worked hard, and he eye-raped every student that passed him. Life went on as usual at my high school until the day that Gus was arrested for the creating, supplying, and downloading of child pornography. Gus had created a crawl space above the girl’s locker room and was filming the female sports teams as they showered and changed. There are thousands of stories like this that occur every year in the United States. Many similar stories include parents, relatives, friends of parents, sports coaches, teachers, and ministers. The list could go on and on – its sickening.

It would be hard to end child pornography, there is too much of it on the internet, but if things are supposed to change for the better the government needs to put more funding into psychological research and social care for children so that more eyes are watching the situations of the children. Like the author of the blog stated, children can also help themselves by knowing what parts of their body are acceptable for touch and knowing the dangers of pedophiles.

Remember when Clark wore a condom to school in 3rd grade?

I remember learning about condoms for the first time. I was in 3rd grade and a rumor was being passed around that one of my classmates, Clark, had worn a condom to school that day. I had no idea what a condom was, but I went along with the mocking. The rumor was spread around so much that Mrs. G found out about the condom and Clark was sent to the nurse’s office.

At that point I thought a condom was a bad thing.

It wasn’t until 5^th grade that I was instructed on what a condom was and how to use it. It was a great moment in my life – I finally got it. Now that I look back on the development of my understanding of sex, I realize that I was exposed to sex education way before I was exposed to pornography. This isn’t the same for some people, as this blog touches on.

The blog claims that many children learn about sex from pornography and that porn producers should step up to the plate and make “safe sex” porn. I agree with the ideas of this blog. Though condoms aren’t appealing to some people, the image of a condom in porn could help to teach not only young people about safe sex but also reinforce the idea for adults. I agree that a push for safe sex promotion should be implemented within the porn industry.

The only problem that I see with targeting young people through pornography is that porn isn’t supposed to be sold to those under the age of 18. What message would targeting youngsters through porn bring to society? That it is now acceptable for the younger population to view pornography for educational purposes? If this was the case it would be the only time that I would not support the push for safe sex promotion in pornography. If the purpose was to reinforce condom use among adults I would support the idea.

Hey Dad, whats the password to this porn site?

This week I’m going to share with you an extreme story involving my friend Jake and his childhood best friend, as was told to me by Jake a few years ago. The story deals with the topic of children emulating sexual activity that they see on television.

According to Jake, he was 8 years old and he and his friend Julie were hanging out at his house. The two youngsters wanted to watch a movie. Jake picked up what he thought was a videotape of some cartoons and put it in the VCR. The tape ended up being one of his father’s pornography tapes, but the children continued to watch. Jake explained to me how he and his friend began to imitate what they were seeing on TV. The two ended up having intercourse. Both Jake and Julie remember the event.

If this event is true it is a classic example of children emulating the behaviors that they see through the media. As discussed in the recent lecture, children have a natural desire to want to do things that they see. Children are constantly bombarded by images of what they view as acceptable, and desirable. It isn’t surprising that children learn about sex and the viewpoints of desirability through the media, but if media is going to be the main source for the education of sex it must be more closely regulated by parents.

Regulation is key for children to develop a healthy view of sex. Website blocking and parental controls on computers allow for parents to regulate what their children are viewing. Parental controls for the TV are available as well. Parents also need to keep in mind that they should speak with their children about sex and be open and honest. It is much better for parents to lay the groundwork for learning about sex than for a child to form twisted views of sex based on their friend’s opinions.

It would probably be good if parents didn’t leave their porn tapes around either. I’m glad neither Jake nor Julie were scarred from the incident, they look back on it and laugh.

Visit www.cyberpatrol.com to read up on tactics for parental control on the internet, and www.controlyourtv.org to read about parental control for TV use.

Roasted turkey and mashed taters…and an A in this class.

I deserve an A in this class. There, I said it. I do all of my coursework from a little laptop while traveling around the country with my band. I’m both a full time musician and a full time student. Most nights I get in from shows, fall asleep at 4:00 a.m., and wake up at 9:00 a.m. to do my homework before having to drive to the next city that we have a gig in. Some weeks I have a tough time finding Internet access and struggle to get everything done within the time period that I can find an Internet connection. Its tough work, but I manage to do all of it, and with style.

Every week I read posts and try to come up with an original idea, and write an insightful blog. Not only do I try to write with my own personal style and keep things interesting, but I also provide readers with a bit of comedy to go along with the solid content. A good percentage of my blog postings have been commented on, which leads me to believe that I am writing with ideas that spark the interest of others.

I deserve an A. I bust my butt.

Blog Edit: Business Side of Porn

Here’s the link to the original post that I edited by JCerina.

Business side of porn

The American porn industry was started in the 1820’s by William Haynes who many claim was the first pornographer distributed in the United States. His first porn that made it to the United States was Fanny Hill. The porn was smuggled into the United States by a ship captain in the 1820’s.

William Haynes published and authored a total of 320 books.  Many people say that the reason Haynes had success during this time period was because he had little to no competition within the American market. During the 1820’s America was still a very puritan country, with little room or tolerance for an author writing obscure books.

It was because of the pressure of the puritans that William Haynes took his own life. The final push over the edge was a letter composed by Anthony Comstock, an inspector for the United States mail service who also had the power to arrest people. The letter told Haynes that he would be arrested for his pornography business if it continued. Comstock was a one-man, obscenity-seeking machine; and caused 16 pornographers, all of them smaller than Haynes, to commit suicide.

With the inventions of trains, planes, and automobiles it was almost impossible to keep up with pornography entering the United States.  As a result of this, Comstock’s power trip came to an end.  To this day in the United States there are sill Comstock laws in effect, but are in very different contexts.

As society changed so did the availability of pornography. In 1930, two magazines were imported.  The first was “Nudist” which was sold for 25 cents a copy.  Nudist was the first porn magazine available at news stands in the US.  The second magazine was “Esquire” at 50 cents a copy. This made Esquire the second most expensive magazine on the newsstands. There are 2 effects that the magazines had on society: (1) everyone could get access to porn, and (2) pornography being sold over the counter had to be more extreme to compete in the market.

The World War 2 time period raised Hugh Heffner, a business savvy magazine editor looking to start a gentleman’s magazine. Heffner took the $600 he had in his pocket and purchased the rights to Merlyn Monroe for his first issue’s centerfold.  Heffner went to individual stores in person and ended up selling 50,000 copies of the magazine at 50 cents each.  Playboy became the best selling magazine in only its first issue.  Heffner made 100 million in just 4 years with his magazine, Playboy, and the rest is history.

Beep beep…there’s a ton of traffic.

I never imagined the TV special on the sex trade could be so powerful. I had heard about the sex trade before, and about people being taken from their families and sold into sexual slavery, but I had never seen it discussed in such depth.

It seems as if the governments in the countries that were noted in the documentary were doing little to stop the exploitation. If it was so easy for a team of journalists to find out a specific woman who was a main player in the sex trade, why weren’t governments also doing their part to investigate and punish known criminals?

According to the government officials, they are trying to do their part but the massive amount of trafficking that is taking place makes it impossible for them to stay current on the business. With lack of updates the difficulty of tracking illegal activity in a business where women change hands daily is set at almost impossible.

Then why was it so easy for both a husband and journalists to track down a wife who had been traded into slavery and not only identify the wife but also the very people who were holding her captive?

I believe that the governments of the countries that have high levels of sex trafficking are overlooking the main players in the scam for certain reasons. As with any organized crime, officials are usually paid off to overlook situations, or see no harm being done to the government so they turn their heads away.

An example of government wrongdoing is the footage in the TV special of police officers who frequently use trafficked girls for their pleasure. It’s these kinds of incidences that leave victims and their family questioning.

Governments need to shape up and start getting more serious about this worldwide problem.

How much of a role do you think governments should play in the fight against sex trafficking?

Tone-bone update…

I say EXACTLY. to this post commenting on my rant about the obnoxiousness of my friend Tone-Bone. I’ve also decided to give a weekly Tone-Bone update.

I spoke with Tone this week on the phone, and yes, I decided to stir up some trouble so that I would have something to write about. I asked Tone about his female situation and he replied with this exact statement, “I don’t know man, it seems like all the girls are ending up with pansy dudes, the only ones that seem to be showing interest in me are young.”

So I’m worried about Tone-Bone. If his computer ever breaks he might be cruising the high school parking lots looking for girls to take advantage of. I guess porn is helping him in this situation, its keeping him from jail.

More updates are coming soon…

Vicky C. look what you do to…Ron’s dad?

The other day my friends and I were watching TV when a commercial popped on the screen, it was a Victoria’s Secret bra sale commercial. My friend Ron’s dad was in the room at the time, he’s a really conservative guy, and I could tell that he was a little embarrassed to be in the room watching that commercial with his son’s friends. It made me think about how sexuality has changed different generations perspectives of acceptable media.

For me, the bra commercial wasn’t any form of pornography but to Ron’s dad it shouldn’t have been allowed on TV. I think there are a few factors that contribute to the differing viewpoints. First, the exposure to pornography has increased from generation to generation. Ron’s dad probably had a lot less exposure to pornography than me. My generation is more open about sex than his.

Even if one traces a timeline of commercials and the introduction of “sex sells” advertising throughout the past few decades the amount of skin revealed in commercials has increased dramatically.

Obviously the Victoria’s Secret commercial isn’t porn, but it’s interesting to view advertisements through the eyes of a different generation…prudes.